Elul and the Great De-Beigification of 2019

The man who owned our house before us got a really great deal on some very drab beige paint.  I know this because there are still 5 gallon buckets of it in the basement and it covers all the walls, ceilings, and up until last week, even the crown moulding.  That beige is everywhere, making … Continue reading Elul and the Great De-Beigification of 2019

One Year A Jew and One Year Married…Again

Yesterday was my wedding anniversary and, as usual, the biggest question most of my friends had was "How long have you been married?"  In this case, like so many others with my family, this was a simple question with a complicated answer.  It all depends on how you look at us. From a Jewish perspective, … Continue reading One Year A Jew and One Year Married…Again

A Year as a Jew and More Questions

The title of this blog, "The Safek" refers to the Hebrew word, safek, for question.  Up until last summer, that question was my husband, who lived his life in the awkward position of neither being a Jew nor NOT a Jew for 7 long years before that question was answered.  (Spoiler alert...he was a Jew … Continue reading A Year as a Jew and More Questions

The Tree House and Another Move

It was a year ago that we left Alaska and boarded a plane for the midwest.  Since then, it's been a hectic year with our conversions, Mr. Safek's heart surgery, and the busy-ness of living in a fully functioning Chassidic community.  I have loved this year, even the tough parts.  Our children both had some … Continue reading The Tree House and Another Move

Freedom From Hate?

This weekend, in a Chabad house not that different from my own Synagogue, a man opened fire and shot and killed a woman who dove in front of her Rabbi, saving his life.  several others were injured.  They were there celebrating the last days of Passover, much like I was, thousands of miles away.  They … Continue reading Freedom From Hate?

Surrendering to Surrender…Again

Surrender is something I always want to be good at, but really struggle with.  A great example is anesthesia. When I was 15 years old, I had to have my wisdom teeth extracted in a surgery.  For this, they had to put me under and when I woke up, I heard the WORST language being … Continue reading Surrendering to Surrender…Again

Passover and Freedom from the Emergency Room

Sometimes, despite your best intentions and planning, holidays go sideways.  This is how we ended up at the emergency room yesterday on the second day of Passover. My husband is a type 2 diabetic on an insulin pump, along with high blood pressure, heart disease, and a triple bypass last Fall.  Even before we lit … Continue reading Passover and Freedom from the Emergency Room

Asbestos Roofs, Passover Cleaning, and Other Things You Learn to Love

Note:  That's not our roof! Tomorrow night Pesach begins.  I know...I should be cooking right now, but, instead, I'm taking a break from work to update this blog and think about all the cooking I should be doing.  Happily, we have invitations for most of our meals for the first 2 days of Passover!  It's … Continue reading Asbestos Roofs, Passover Cleaning, and Other Things You Learn to Love

Home Buying…as an Orthodox Jew

At some point in the conversion process, one of the biggest hurdles almost every convert encounters is finding a home or rental in an Orthodox Jewish community.  It's a non-negotiable.  No respectable, accepted Rabbinical Court will convert you unless you live within walking distance of an Orthodox Synagogue, preferably within a thriving Orthodox community that … Continue reading Home Buying…as an Orthodox Jew